‘Social’ Intelligence: How to Get Everyone to Like You

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Getting everyone to like you is not as difficult as you might think it is.

All you have to do is be a shameless hypocrite at all times, say what people want to hear and agree with what everyone says ever.

You must then dress in a manner which everyone around you finds appropriate and speak in a way in which everyone understands, tolerates and adores.

The next step is to simply give up your views on anything, forget about being opinionated at any point of your earthly existence and start blending in with the surroundings, much like a chameleon does.

The final thing you need to do is to stop asking questions and start making more pointless and inflated statements whilst looking into people’s feet rather than their eyes as to avoid any emotional confrontations such expressing disapproval or showing compassion.

As you might have probably guessed by now, the abovementioned is as filled with sarcasm as my wardrobe is with suits.

Truth of the matter is, you can never get everyone to like you regardless of how hard you try.

Let’s take a country’s government, for instance (not a big fan of generalising but it’s alright to do it when it’s for a good cause).

Throughout its term, a government will often be praised by some but despised by others because of the policies which it is implementing.

There are those who support the left wing parties and those who oppose it in supporting the right wing parties.

A simple point must, then, be made: you cannot be liked by everyone because everyone is different. The only way to go around that is to constantly change your views and policies to fit your surroundings.

A fresh example of that is Mr Clegg’s Liberal Democrat party which promised students that it was going to fight for lower university tuition fees and then went around and increased those threefold (to some £ 9000 per year) when it came to power.

Do you reckon that any students will vote Lib Dem again in their lives?

Going back to my initial example, another thing worth mentioning is that, more often than not, regardless of what the government does and the policies it adopts, the outlook of the general public will always be negative.

Unfortunately, the above is but human nature: it would sometimes seem that we are programmed to only see the negative aspects and ignore the positive ones.

The second point to make, then, is that there will always be those people who will automatically disregard the good things you do and will only remember this one bad thing you did once.

The final point I’d like to make is that when a government introduces a policy, it is almost immediately attacked by everyone who opposes it. At first sight, there is absolutely nothing wrong about that IF such an opinion is an informed one.

Let’s take the recent austerity measures introduced by most European countries; it would seem that EVERYONE  disagrees with them but only about 40% know what those measures are about or what they are trying to achieve.

The third and final point to make, then, is that there are those people who simply disagree with you and dislike you...well, just because; and you can’t argue with that.

So, next time you try to get everyone to like you,

DON’T.

It’s a waste of time. And since time is money and we’re in an (almost) triple- dip recession, that’s a place you do not want to go to.